For far too many years, women have been subject of slavery, subject of do`s and don’ts, subject of rules imposed upon them by society. I`d say that society has been pretty much like a harsh step mother, a mother that demands highly from her children and tells them what they`re allowed or not. Yes, this is what society has done to women. Funny enough, society never bothered to impose these rules or restrictions on men.
Why is that?
Why is it that women are looked at as being the weak creatures, with no power or independence to decide for their own, for their lives…? Why does society believe that a woman can`t stand on her own and she needs a man in order to have a complete and fulfilled life? Why does society believe that it is only men who can decide, make requirements, have total freedom and rule this world? I`m not saying that the world doesn`t need men; no, of course it needs them, no question about it. It just doesn’t seem fair to limit the woman so much and at the same time, put all these heavy duties and responsibilities on her (weak, right?) shoulders.
On top of it, comes this self-made criteria, which tells women all over the world what/how to think, say, be, act. A woman is not allowed to… A woman should…A woman must always…A woman needs to… A woman has to…(fill in the blanks). You know what I`m talking about, right?
Well, I wonder, isn`t it too much? And who`s society to tell women how to think, be and live? Really now, what/who is society in order to make all these demands? Maybe this thing called society should mind its own business and leave women at peace, leave them live their lives however they want and choose to, pursue whatever makes them happy.
We do have free will, don`t we? Or is it that only men have this privilege to be free from any limitations and trammels?
If this is the case, then I dare say God hasn`t been too fair on woman`s part, and since God is impartial ( I know this for sure:-), it only makes me think that it wasn`t God who created this inequity, but society itself. Why? Well, every predator needs its prey, doesn`t it?
So, since the woman is the weak one( ha, pretty good joke!), what better thing to do then to ceaselessly hunt her, to steal away her freedom and liberty to be how she wishes to?
Therefore, society created this table of content of dos and donts- as if they would be the very commandments given by God to Moses- and women should blindly respect them, obey, worship these rules.
Well, let me tell you that I don`t agree with them not one bit! And I doubt it that respecting these rules is something that would please God; I also doubt the fact that He`d ever ask women to do such a thing and you know why? Because God gave us freedom, and He shared it equally to every living creature on this planet, regardless male or female!
He doesn`t want you, woman, to kneel before anything else except that thing that is your HAPPINESS. This is the only one, because God wants you to be happy, He wants you to be so happy and free that He doesn`t ask anything from you, not even kneel before Him (this is another thing invented by religion).
Once you recognize your happiness, go for it and make the most of it! I kneel before my happiness too, and my happiness is writing. And I happily kneel and with utmost respect, too, because my entire bliss goes around this craft called writing. Yes, I gladly kneel before my writing, cause it`s the very essence of my life and the reason why I`m in this world. Other than that, I know no other thing I should or am supposed to kneel before.
Therefore, woman, be exactly how you are, express that beauty and greatness that you have within, and don`t apologize for anything. You have an immense burning fire inside of you and it craves for expression; you have this beautiful wild side that craves for challenge and growth. Forget about society and all its stupid rules and limitation, live how you choose to, and choose what makes YOU Happy! That`s the only thing that matters!
I made myself a promise; I said to myself that when I`ll be old, I`ll look back and with tears of gratitude in my eyes, I`ll say:” Thank you, Cristina, for living the life you wanted, the life you chose for yourself, thank you for making your own choices. Thank you for following your bliss, in spite of every circumstance or odds”
This is my invitation for you, you beautiful creature:-)
Don`t look outside for an answer; search it within you and once you see it, start living the life you`re inspired by. Don`t let anyone steal your God given right to live happily, freely, limitless, as nothing is more important than You!
Be happy and smile!, and remember: You are free…! You can do whatever you want!