God has been very generous with the female gender. Maybe one of the reason is because women don`t have such great physical power like men do. As a substitute, God has blessed women with grace, intelligence, strong sense of maturity and responsibility, intuition, playfulness of the mind and soul. God knew what He was doing, this is without doubt;-)
Yet, when it comes to being a real woman, what does it mean? Or what does it imply? How does a real woman look like, how does she cope with life and its challenges? How does she think, behave…?
Well, chances are we may never find the perfect or supreme answer to all these questions, as everybody has their own way of thinking and looking at things. And for more than a million times these ways are different, which is a good thing.
We need variety, don`t we?:-)
But I do can share with you my own thoughts and feelings around the subject.
If it happens for you to get touched or inspired by them, it`s great!:-) If, by any chance, what I am about to write won`t move you, then I guess we`re on different pages and the energy of my words didn`t find a destination in you- which is fine, too.
At the end of the day, we didn`t come here to impress one another. No. We came here to explore and live life, and if it happens for our energy fields to resonate one with another- it`s even better!:-))
Ok, going back to the topic:-)
A real woman…?
A real woman, in my view, is someone who is aware of herself- this is, let`s say, the first criteria.
Aware of herself? What does it mean?, you may ask.
A woman who is aware of herself is a woman who knows her worth. She is the type of woman that lives completely in the fullness of her spirit, mind and body, a woman that knows she`s so much more than the physical layers that her mind and body secure for her.
What I mean to say is that a real woman is first and foremost, a spiritual woman, as this is the place where it all starts and where all her beauty comes from. Without spirituality, a woman is like a walking doll, being able to take care of her things and run her life as she pleases to but still- a walking doll.
Now, if I would be a man, I wouldn`t want a walking doll by my side. I am serious! If I would be a man, I would search a woman that has a strong relationship with her Creator ( I won`t say God, as I don`t want to suggest any idea of religion).
Why would I search a woman like that?
Simply because, a person (regardless female or male) without the presence of their Creator in their lives is a shallow person; is a person that won`t care too much about their fellow countrymen or anything else happening around them; is a person that has their main focus on the material side of this world and we do know that everything in this physical realm is momentary, don`t we? This type of person will most definitely yawn when somebody else will show interest or talk about the supreme force that created this world or important matters that our planet is facing right now. For all these reasons, I wouldn’t want a walking doll by my side.
Going further, a real woman takes full responsibility for herself and her life. She will not ever blame others for what`s going on in her life because she is strong and has brains enough to accept and admit the fact that she is the only one who has control over her life.
A real woman stands up for herself and speaks her mind whenever she feels she has to; a real woman loves herself ( as a main premise for a rich and fulfilling life), respects and takes care of herself and she`s doing all this without the smallest expectation of getting these “presents” from her dad, brother, friend, boyfriend, husband or whoever it may be.
How come? Because she knows that she is the center of her life and she may want to stay this way if she wants to live life fully. If there`s something she wants to be, do or have, she`ll get down to work and achieve that thing!
No excuses, no waiting, no delaying, no postponing, no “whys”, no “buts”….no nothing! She just gets to work! Simple as that!
A real woman is someone who never accept less than what she`s really deserving; a real woman is a woman with pride, dignity; she has great self-esteem and most of all- she cares about the relationship she has with herself. A woman like that walks tall, regardless of the circumstances in her life; she is both a dreamer and a do-er; a woman like that keeps her cold blood and judgment even when it seems that all hell broke loose!
A real woman has self-confidence and she approves of herself, she approves what she thinks, says and does, and she doesn`t need any approval coming from somebody else; a real woman is free in the way her mind works and her way of being, and has but only one mantra: ” I can do it !!”.
She has her own life, her own career and money and she will not ever relay on her husband for the things she needs- financially speaking. A woman like this has no fear of speaking her mind and say “No!” when it is required.
A real woman is delicate; a real woman is elegant, funny, feminine, sexy, gracious, seductive, mysterious, she`s polite and well mannered.
A real woman is independent, capable, courageous, and passionate! Oh yes, a real woman is excited about having babies and becoming a mother!:-)
She represents the perfect balance between the spiritual and material side of life; she brings peace where there is war, she brings harmony where there is revenge, she brings love where there is hatred, she brings light where there is dark.
In my view, this is how a real woman looks like.
Now, I`m curious to find out what your thoughts are:-) How does a real woman look like from your point of view?:-)
Can`t wait to hear:-)
Much love,
Cristina
Cristina, I think you perfectly described the real woman. It has nothing to do with physical beauty, (But I am a guy so I can’t honestly say that I don’t notice such things:O)). A real woman trusts in her strength and is not afraid to demonstrate her confidence. Many people say that women are too emotional, but I would disagree. I think women are certainly more honest with their emotions, but I think men are much more likely to react to a situation in an emotional way and usually it ends up badly. Women are more careful to react in an appropriate manner. Women are more mature and more compassionate than men. If there were more women in positions of power in this world, there would be fewer wars and less hunger and suffering. Men have had their chance to run the show and have made a mess of things. I believe only women have the ability to turn the world around. Unfortunately, men are usually unwilling to relinquish control.
Keep up the great work. You are at your best when you are demonstrating the special woman you have become.
With love,
Doug
Hello, Doug:)) So good to hear from you, my dear friend:-)) Yup, I know physical beauty is the first thing men put their eyes on, Doug:-) But nothing to blame here, for real! This is how men are structured, it`s in their DNA:) I am fine with:)) I just would like for men to have in mind that there are other things or features that comes first, as beauty won`t last forever:P
Yes, I agree with you, Doug. Men had their chance to run the show and the result of that is the way our modern world looks today. Men are ego driven and because of it, they tend to forget about the things that truly matter: love, compassion, mercy,understanding, the warmth of the heart and so on. They forget about these things or – worse- they believe they don`t matter. Well, let me tell you, Doug, if men would stop playing the tough guys part this world would look different because to that point all the things I mentioned earlier as love, harmony, emotions, joy- would actually have a chance to step on the stage and influence the world and the people with their healing aura. Oh well, huge topic…:D
Yes, men are usually unwilling to relinquish control- true. But I do believe that there will come a point where they will realize that they have to relinquish it, as there won`t be any other option for them. Let women repair the harm that men did…:P I know, it sounds pretty harsh, but it`s true.
Thank you Doug for your comments:) They are very welcome and I thank you for the time you take to write them:))
Much love,
Cristina
Hi Christina,
Really? A woman at her best may be all that you’ve described as a real woman and a man at his worst may be as you’ve described as well. I’ve seen characteristics of much strength and weakness in both sexes. Where the confusion comes in is identifying that which is character-worthy of being human or humane and apprpriate roles essential for each sex.
I find my relationship with my Creator and purpose as a person before any sex role comes into play. Even as children we are born with sex traits, but do not mature phyically until later. Mentally mature? Well, that seems to be delayed after a huge learning curve that instills wisdom, if one survives the lessons learned.
I do not value myself as a women alone, but through relationships, focusing on problem-solving and not wasting time and energy on blame. Not as the world today tells us to divide and conquer, we must find the pulse of a thriving life for peace and unity.
Hello, Carol:)
First off, thank you for taking the time to write and comment about the article I wrote:) Thank you:))
I am not sure I follow you, Carol, when you say “as a real woman and a man at his worst may be as you’ve described as well. What do you mean to say? Yes, I agree with you: there are characteristics of strength and weakness in both sexes- nothing to say about that for it`s very true. But character, in itself, doesn`t play a big role here, Carol, for a person( male or female) who is/feels empowered is a person of character, too.
Hope to hear from you again, Carol:)
Take care,
Cristina
Cristina,
Well said.
Doug